As I write, we're coming to the end of what has been one of the craziest years ever. There's no doubt 2020 has produced challenge upon challenge for most of us. But for a great many in midlife, it has been especially challenging.
I've continued to provide my ground breaking Midlife Crisis Quiz, and with thousands of people completing it, now is a great time to update the results coming through.
So this is what mid-lifers have been saying. The chart shows the percentage of respondents who strongly or mostly agree with the following statements:
These results are pretty self-explanatory, and very sobering.
Midlifers feel like they are not in control of their choices or their future, that they are feeling like they are drifting at the whim of the circumstances of life.
In addition to what you see in the above chart:
The answers were generally similar from both men and woman, with the biggest differences in these questions:
|I lack energy||62%||87%|
|I'm considering a major life change||38%||51%|
|I'm often thinking things that disturb me or think that I'm going crazy||68%||83%|
My experience tells me that a higher percentage of woman are really honest with themselves when things aren't going well. But it's clear that it's not just men who go through midlife crisis.
Can you relate to any of this?
Despite how bleak we feel the present is, the truth is that there are ALWAYS choices. Most of the time, we don't see them all, haven't explored them properly, and/or are afraid of what will happen if we do.
If this is you, I recommend doing the following as a starting point:
Those 3 steps are harder than they sound, but something profound happens when we do them.
Even though I'm a coach, and sometimes seen as an 'expert' in vision setting and helping people enact life change, but I still ask myself those same questions. They aren't just good questions for when we are in or near a time of crisis. They are also great questions to ask ourselves anytime we want change.
What would your future self be willing you to do on this this week?
At a minimum, I encourage you to start by asking yourself those questions, and seeing what they reveal about your next steps.
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